The Starting Line Isn't the Same for Every Surfer

There's a saying you've probably heard before:

"Comparison is the thief of joy."

I think there's a lot of truth in that.

But after years of surfing, I've come to believe there's another reason comparison steals our joy.

It's because we're comparing people who never started from the same place.

A Fair Race

Imagine lining up for a race.

Every runner stands on the same starting line, waiting for the gun to go off. When it does, everyone runs toward the same finish line.

Of course, some runners are naturally faster. Some trained harder. Some have better genetics. But despite those differences, everyone begins at the same place.

Now imagine something different.

Just before the race starts, one runner is quietly moved five miles closer to the finish line.

Another runner is moved five miles farther back.

Then the gun goes off.

Would anyone call that a fair race?

Probably not.

Yet that's often how we compare ourselves in life.

Surfing Doesn't Have One Starting Line

Surfing is one of the best examples I can think of.

Some people are born just minutes from the ocean.

Some grow up in Hawaii, Australia, California, Indonesia, or somewhere else where quality waves are part of everyday life.

Others grow up hundreds of miles from the coast and don't discover surfing until they're adults.

Some have parents who surf and spend their childhood paddling out before school.

Others buy a used board in their twenties and teach themselves.

Some surfers can paddle out every day.

Others are lucky if they surf twice a month because of work, family, finances, or simply because they don't live near the ocean.

Then there are the things none of us can control.

Our health.

Our athletic ability.

The opportunities we were given.

The people willing to teach us.

The amount of free time we have.

None of us chooses these things, but every one of them changes where our journey begins.

Simply put, the starting line isn't the same for everyone.

I Catch Myself Doing It Too

Over the years, I've caught myself doing it.

I'll watch someone draw beautiful lines across a wave or paddle effortlessly into a set and think,

"How do they make it look so easy?"

Then I remind myself of something.

I didn't grow up surfing every day.

I wasn't raised by a family of surfers.

I didn't have the opportunity to spend my childhood in the ocean learning from people who had been doing it their entire lives.

Would I be a better surfer today if I had?

Maybe.

I'll never know.

But what I do know is this:

My starting line was almost certainly different from theirs.

And if that's true for me, it's probably true for everyone else too.

That realization changed the way I look at surfing.

I no longer compare myself to the surfer carving perfect turns down the line because I have no idea where their journey began.

At the same time, I try not to look down on the surfer who's struggling to catch their first wave. Their starting line may be very different from mine.

We all begin somewhere.

We Only See Today

Imagine two surfers.

One caught their first wave at six years old with parents who surfed every weekend.

The other discovered surfing at twenty-five after moving closer to the beach.

Should we expect them to reach the same level?

Of course not.

But here's the trap.

When we watch someone surf, we only see who they are today.

We don't see the thousands of hours they spent in the water.

We don't see the wipeouts.

The frustrating sessions.

The early mornings.

The missed waves.

The years they spent learning to read the ocean.

We compare our current chapter to someone else's entire story.

That's rarely a fair comparison.

Compare to Learn, Not to Measure Your Worth

That doesn't mean comparison is always bad.

Watching a better surfer can inspire us.

We can study how they position themselves, how they draw their lines, how patiently they wait for the right wave, and how they read the ocean.

That's healthy.

The problem begins when we use someone else's journey to measure our own worth.

Instead of asking,

"Why am I not as good as them?"

Ask,

"What can I learn from them?"

Those are two very different questions.

Enjoy Your Own Journey

The older I get, the more I realize that surfing was never meant to be a competition for most of us.

It's an excuse to spend time in the ocean.

To challenge ourselves.

To laugh with our friends.

To clear our minds.

To enjoy a few waves before heading home.

None of us gets to choose where our starting line is.

Some people begin closer to the finish than others.

Some have opportunities we'll never have.

Others overcome challenges we'll never fully understand.

Life has never been fair.

But it hasn't been fair for anyone.

Every single person carries a different set of opportunities, disadvantages, victories, and struggles.

So stop worrying about someone else's race.

Paddle out when you can.

Keep learning.

Celebrate the small improvements.

Be grateful for every wave you catch.

Because maybe the goal was never to surf like someone else.

Maybe the goal was simply to enjoy the incredible privilege of surfing at all.

After all, the ocean doesn't care where you started.

Daniel Sole
Founder, Sole Surf Company

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